The problem that I have with the way Apple does this has nothing whatsoever to do with me. It’s their device, it is not possible for me to care any less about it.
No, the problem I have is that it becomes a severe bullying / exclusion tactic among kids. Now, kids will always find something to bully other kids about, but this one seems to hurt a lot because of the source of the ire and the inability to do anything about it (short of purchasing an Apple device).
My eldest was excluded from group chats with friends because they “ruined” the quality of pictures and videos by being in the group chat. These are friends mind you, not the sort of bullies the rest of us might’ve had. It’s devastating to kids when their friends exclude them like this. What do you do? You can’t complain about the technology not mattering, you can’t reason with it, you can’t say: “it gets better”.
Kids these days have a very different relationship to technology. That relationship can seem weird or “wrong” to folks who remember a time before these ubiquitous devices. Crap patterns like this creating artificial walled gardens are not “novel” or “creative” ways to increase sales.
Hell, adults and “friends” of mine really seem to care that I have an android. They constantly bring it up as if they think bullying another adult into buying their specific product will somehow work or maybe they think that it bothers me or something. I could not care less. Start a new chat without me and the other android users? Cool, go ahead. Spoiler: they won’t.
Or they have and haven’t told you, as I’ve experienced multiple times now (as an adult in my thirties, no less). It’s why I fell out of my bar trivia group, they slowly forgot to send us Android users (aka my partner and I) texts separately, so we just drifted out of that circle.
It’s comical how petty so many adults get about the bubbles too, and absolutely refuse to consider using anything else. Luckily my partner was on the Pixel train like me before we met, so it’s not an issue there, but suggest Signal, Telegram, or hell, even Facebook Messenger (which they all have as well), and you just get befuddlement in response. Even my mother, who is in her fifties and is a department director at her job, gets perpetual shit from her coworkers re: the staff group chats that just can’t go into Slack for whatever reason, as she’s the lone Android user in that whole bunch. None of these people even grew up with cellphones of any type, and yet they’re just as petty about messaging as any socially-obsessed teen.
Oh well, no skin off my back, and if anything this petty behavior from a subset of iOS users is basically an anti-advertisement to me. The last time I had an iPhone, I deliberately disabled iMessage from the get go to head off this mess (and at the time, turning it off when switching away from iOS was a nightmare too).
Not to make light of your kids situation, but sending pics/videos over mms is horrible they aren’t being metaphorical when they say it ruins the chats. Imagine compressing a video to < 1MB and you would get something unseeable. Now i would recommned they all switch to snapchat, its very popular and wont mess with the group chat no matter the device used :)
Oh, I totally get it. It’s super dumb, but being a kid is really hard these days; kind of ridiculously so.
Long story short: they got iPhones. Do I like it? No. Did it make me feel bad to pay into that dark pattern? Yeah. Did I do it anyway? Yup.
But at the end of the day, I had a choice between doing what I felt was right vs. doing what would make their lives just a little easier psychologically.
I did explain how stupid it was that Apple was doing this, how much it was complete and utter nonsense, and what dark patterns were. I can’t force their friends to do different things, but I can nudge their behavior. I taught them about Signal and they’ve shown their friends. It hasn’t caught on like wildfire of course, but, it’s there and I learned that at least some kids today understand a lot more about privacy and security than I’d given them credit for.
Unfortunately this is what makes iPhones “iPhones”
They bring out features that generally make the phone part of the smartphone better to use.
RCS is still a mess on androids. And calling on iPhones is about to feel very modern while android phones will still be calling people the same way people did 20 years ago.
Who the fuck is using their phone to call people? ;)
Tbh Only spammers and scammers lol
Not true, I also get calls from my real estate agency and my car’s retailer, two of the most honest jobs there can be.
And my mom
When you say RCS is a mess on Android, what do you mean? I personally have not had issues.
It’s been fine for me too. But I would guess they mean carriers being slow to adopt it.
Why would they design a protocol to require carriers or for that matter phones instead of just running on any IP-based host?
I have 2 friends with different samsungs and both my parents with newer samsungs. Neither one of them have RCS. Idk if you have to enable it or anything.
Is there even a difference between how iPhone and android calling ‘feels’? They’re both the exact same as 20 years ago lmao its a phone call, it’s been replaced by like a thousand apps by now
Most iphone users facetime, and if its another iphone it’ll be clearer than an android.
Hang on … I set a picture on MY phone and then anyone I call sees MY picture? Oh yeah, can’t see how this’ll go wrong. How long before dick picks are sent, or advertisements, or someone finds a way to use it to hack someones phone.
I can see this could be useful, especially folks with eye sight issues (but how would this affect blind folks?), but it’s just another way to tell someone who is calling. I don’t answer my phone unless they’re in my contact book already.
This seems eh to me, but I’m not an Apple person anyway.
especially folks with eye sight issues
Someone correct me if I’m wrong, but don’t some phones already call out the name of the caller for blind people? Heard it on a train once, maybe a feature I can’t seem to find on my phone.
Yep, this is also a common feature for phones for seniors.
My old feature phone from 2010 had this.
Honestly, it is bad enough people can just make my phone demand my immediate attention via phone calls. We should be phasing those out, not give them more control over our devices.
This was the first thing I thought too. I got to find that comic about “time-to-penis” stats.
It’s not much different than a profile picture on most social media networks, is it? You could have done all of this with your Lemmy profile picture as well.
Phones are a bit more ubiquitous for older folks though. Imagine a vulnerability that allows me to post my “pic” as pulling from your phone and it comes up with a picture of your cousin or something. Or if I’m targeting you, you’re an old person that doesn’t understand technology and you see your granddaughter show up in the picture and don’t look at the number or anything. There seems to be a lot of ways this can be abused. I hope I’m wrong and we’ll never see a story about people abusing it, but people pretty much always abuse these things.
TBH I don’t really want want to anything to do with people that see me as less because I don’t have a fancy calling animation anyway.
Oh no, Apple develops Apple-specific features to add value to their products! Someone alert the Department of Justice! My bubbles will NOT be discriminated against!
Just use signal. In general.
The problem with Signal is there is no way to backup your messages on iOS. I’m a very pro-privacy and used Signal for a while but stopped. Being able to have backups of my conversations with loved ones is more important than having the utmost privacy to me.
Thats a feature…
The inability to backup your own data is a feature now? That’s some Stockholm Syndrome bullshit.
No, there is no backups because you shouldn’t have secure information laying around unsecured as a backup. Stockholm syndrome is WhatsApp or Apple Message where its not secured at all.
Who said the backup needs to be insecure?
You can literally encrypt the backup itself and use a pass phrase for unlocks. WhatsApp already does just that. Also WhatsApp uses Signals encryption and last time it was audited it passed with flying colours.
It’s possible they can push an update that would do client side scanning of messages while typed or that have been sent but this would be trivial to find out about and has never been reported on.
Backups can and should be encrypted.
I would agree, IF Signal also wouldn’t allow backups on Android and wouldn’t store images on desktop completely unencrypted… At this point it’s just hypocrisy
IMO it’s a user’s choice whether or not to backup their data. Wire handled this quite well where you could backup your chat history etc but you were required to set an encryption password for the backup.
For reference, Signal is my main chat platform and my main point of contact. Having 2GB of chat histories that could just be lost at any moment is quite unnerving and a major reason for me to look at other platforms…
Yep, got 4 GB of history myself. When my wife updated her phone we made a mistake and had to transfer Signal twice, I didn’t even notice that the first transfer wiped her whole history. What a stupid feature it’s like the Signal devs treat us like children. Unfortunately I haven’t found a replacement that is as popular and I’m happy with yet.
I never understood the complaint. If iPhone users don’t like the way Apple messaging works with Android contacts, they can just use an alternative like Whatsapp. Right?
I’m my experience, if iPhone users don’t like the way Apple messaging works with Android contacts, they bitch at the person using Android telling them to get an iPhone.
It’s interesting how different the experience is inside the US vs the rest of the world. In Europe, where Android holds a majority, basically everyone is using 3rd party chat apps like WhatsApp, Signal, etc…
That’s not really because of the Apple vs Android ecosystem wars though. My understanding is that most of Europe uses third party apps because, at least until recently, pricing for phone and text plans was exorbitant, when considering that many Europeans are “roaming” and communicating with people in adjacent countries.
Oh yeah true forgot about that part. Pricing for phone and text plans within a country weren’t the issue but across country was (and still is) is super costly and in Europe especially close to borders it’s quite common to have friends and family that lives in another country, so having a cheap/free way to message them is also what gave rise to 3rd party messaging apps ^^
It is very interesting, I’m south american in my country in particular, everyone uses 3rd party as well, mostly WhatsApp and Telegram (although they are on the rocks legally right now), no one really natively texts anymore. That’s for company automated texts, like Google verification codes and spam.
It doesn’t even occur to them that they also break features on the Android users’ ends as well, but I only see iPhone users complaining. It really isn’t that big of a deal to share a file over SMS/MMS with a link rather than trying to share the actual file directly. Is that difficult to do on an iPhone?
My dad likes to send me videos. He sent me one yesterday… It seemed like he was at a harbor by the 8 pixels that got through
He also frequently emails me from his phone. I used to ask him to send videos to my email. Even tried to coach him through the process -surely they must have a share button?
I think iPhones are designed around the idea that “either it just works, or you shouldn’t be doing it at all”.
Even my technical friends seem to forget the fact they understand how all of this works the minute they look at their phone - I had to coach one through uploading a larger video to Google drive and sending me the link. My brother in Christ, we use GitHub together. We use Google meets regularly. We used Dropbox in college. Why are you acting like I told you to put it on a flash drive and mail it to me?
Photos you can share using iCloud links, you have to go into the Photos app and share from there instead of adding the photo from Messages, otherwise it looks like it will try to share as MMS (I haven’t tested actually sending it). But that’s similar on Android as well, right? I’ve never used SMS on Android anyway when I could avoid it, always another messenger. One of those other messengers is just built into the iPhone and exclusive to it, for better or worse.
Apparently the EU is trying to make Apple open iMessage up to Android (link). We’ll see what comes of that. More interoperability is always good either way.
Oh that would be some progress.
It’s mostly an issue that android users in the US don’t use what’s app
Facebook Messenger is more popular than WhatsApp here. So it’s not like there aren’t alternatives.
The point is that it’s not really Android users’ problem. There are options for iPhone users and, yes, if they really want to use the native iPhone messaging app they can complain to Tim Apple. Cc: @FuckFashMods@lib.lgbt
Yeah that’s what I’m saying. Android users themselves don’t care about modern messaging features. Some people do tho.
Are you implying that the RCS that comes with Google Messages is significantly less modern than whatever ships with iPhones?
Edit: Or, are you saying that most Android users wouldn’t care if that was the case?
RCS is less “modern” or at least feature full compared to iMessage or at least was last I checked which was last year at some point. Group chats weren’t encrypted is a big one and it doesn’t interact with other apps the way iMessage can with apple wallet etc
The app integration is fine, although I don’t know what integration with a payment app is supposed to accomplish. I was confused about it when Signal tried to incorporate a payment feature. Rcs group chat encryption is supposed to be there, but I don’t have any groups to test it where everyone is using a compatible messaging app.
Or they can bitch at Apple to fix their SMS/MMS problems.
Why would anyone want to sms? Modern messaging is much nicer experience.
Their problem is that iMessage falls back to that instead of them adopting RCS, and treats MMS in particular way worse (terrible image quality, etc)
They could still keep iMessage, but just automatically fall back to RCS instead of SMS/MMS. God forbid!
None of my android friends use RCS
I don’t want to sms, but also a lot of my friends aren’t techies, not to mention my family. Convincing them all to download and use the same messaging app is just not going to happen.
Apple has a SMS/MMS problem the same way some people have a rodent problem.
I mean the right answer is something like Signal, but you have to really beat on people for that.
I tried for years. I’m over it.
All these text and emoji features that are being added into apple but are not compatible with Android: this seems like a problem…
Until you download signal.
It has great features for group messaging, video calling, emojis and is generally feature rich.
And it’s end-to-end encrypted when messaging other signal users.
It’s available on iOS and Android.
The hard part is getting others to join. If all of your fam has iPhones and you are the one Android person, getting them all to join Signal just for you is a tall order.
Does it offer SMS?
Because I’m not going to ask someone to download an app so I can talk to them.
So pissed they removed it… grrr, there goes the wife acceptance factor
Exactly, who is using bog-standard texts and phonecalls in this day and age? Do they also use internet explorer because that’s the default too? Even if you’re not on Signal, everyone and their mums has WhatsApp, I don’t see how this is even an issue!
So many people use standard clear text messaging and calling.
When I try to explain encryption, I usually get the line
" I’ve got nothing to hide!"
The solution is to just use something like Signal.
Unfortunately most of the US user base would rather cling to any sort of elitism than actually search for a solution to an invented problem.
This does seem to be a US centric problem, I don’t know anyone who still uses SMS, everyone seems to use Facebook Messenger/WhatsApp/Telegram/Signal here
I can’t see this actually being a big deal, like at all, lmao. This assumes everyone cares or even knows the implications of a contact poster, and you can even make them for contacts that haven’t made one themselves. If you automatically think “ew Android!” when someone didn’t make a contact poster (when they can literally be on iOS, but not make one), you have issues.
As I understand, most iphone users do have issues. I remember hearing that people with Androids in their selfies are measurably less likely to match on Tinder
The OS wars have always bugged me a little. On one hand you have iOS users acting all high and mighty and considering anything other than iPhone less, on the other there’s some snobby Android users that seem to think everyone that uses an iPhone is an idiot. Guess we can’t help but engage in us-vs-them thinking sometimes. Excluding people based on the tech they use makes absolutely zero sense to me though.
I’ve used both iOS/MacOS and Android/Windows over the years and I can’t really say that one is inherently better than the other. Each platform excels in a different use case however and has different USPs.
Anywho, just my two cents. Cheers!
What. That sounds absolutely ridiculous. What’s wrong with people lol.
No way would i use an iphone. I outgrew its capabilities in 2010, spent 3 years not updating until i could get an untethered jailbreak and finally gave it up in 2013. I have helped people with iphones and ipads since then and nothing has convinced me to go back.
I think this could’ve great if it was an open standard but that’s not the apple way.
Don’t forget, FaceTime will be an open standard, aaaaany time now https://appleinsider.com/articles/10/06/07/apple_announces_open_standard_facetime_video_chat_for_iphone_4
I remember this and thought I was crazy. There was an article linked somewhere on Lemmy last week that addressed this. It seemed like it was a Steve Jobs special - no one knew he was going to promise that. Subsequently, they got tangled up in a patent dispute with someone who owned a very vague communications protocol patent. That outcome has been appealed, from both sides, in courts basically since then.
It was announced in 2010 and then a year later Jobs died so it’s not out the realm of possibilities that other Execs decided against it and backtracked on it. It’s very possible if he lived longer it would have happened or at least an App would have released for it on Android and possibly iMessage would have had one too.
Oh I hadn’t connected those dates together. Certainly it could have been part of his vision. It could be a very interesting world if FaceTime was available on other operating systems. Who knows what else may have come with it.
Took some time but got all my contacts to switch over to signal so apple can go screw themeselves
wanting everyone in your own walled garden is standard corporate fuckery, but Apple deliberately making the color contrast lower for green messages is just dark.
https://uxdesign.cc/how-apple-makes-you-think-green-bubbles-gross-e03b52b12fed
Is it just me that has literally never heard anyone bring up the colour of bubbles irl? Like I’ve seen people talk about it on the internet from time to time but never in the real world.
It’s more of a thing amongst the newer generations.
I am the newer generations though
In that case, congrats on having a good group of non-petty friends!
RCS could have been great if e2e were baked in from the start. Apple would not have had such a strong argument to stay with its own standard and we might not have found ourselves with this divide.
Apple doesn’t need an argument to stay with their own standards lol. Their reasoning is and has always been to make it harder and/or less appealing to leave their ecosystem in any way. Any arguments they make are fabricated after the fact
