Pup Biru

their problems are legitimate problems sure, but in a lot of cases problems with a lot of those groups can be summed up with a couple of things:

• it’s different to my world view and i don’t like it
• i think i deserve something and am not getting it

those are different kinds of problems to acknowledging your own feelings, or people are using me and trampling over me… both are deserving of help, but incels, terfs, extremists in general are harming others with their problems

you’re free to swing your arms until they come into contact with my body

these classes of people are harmful to others - i don’t think anyone thinks they aren’t deserving of help, but they are dangerous in a completely different way

yup! and absolutely worth the mention that if you’re queer (qlife), struggling with specific issues - alcohol, gambling, finance, eating disorders, etc - there’s specific support available to a lot of people in australia, the US, europe, etc

if you need help, help is available! find one of these services who can help you find the specific support that you need, and go from there :)

as a gay man, i found a lot more help when i started seeing services that specialised in queer health :)

yall deserve someone who understands what you’re going through in life

yeah id say it’s not overt, but that’s kinda the problem… it’s almost difficult to identify, so when it comes to mental health for men a lot of the time society, therapists, etc almost gaslights us into thinking our problems aren’t problems

if it were overt it’d be easy to identify… the fact what it’s not, the fact that men are the majority, and are the problem in a lot of cases pushes people to certain conclusions (including ourselves about our own problems)

mental health is complex af

in australia we have (limited) free mental health services (i wanna say 8 free sessions with a therapist?)… this still holds true

it’s not only about money

i’d like to be very clear here… a lot of discussion about men’s spaces is thinly veiled sexism by incels… that doesn’t mean there’s not a problem, it just means that incels are attracted to “it’s not my fault”

that said, there’s a comment up thread that captures it pretty well

… mental health professionals all my ‘issues’ were blow way out of proportion … always 100% told me everything that happens to me is entirely my fault. they also told me it was normal/healthy to vent my feelings by doing productive things (like writing, exercising, relaxing), rather than viewing that as ‘not addressing the problem’.

the issue with so much of this crap is that not only does nobody want to talk to men, it’s that they don’t want to listen and/or the tell us we are ‘talking wrong’. even when we do talk to people, there is only a tiny window of acceptable things we an talk about and way we can talk about them or how selfish it is of him to vent/indulge his legitimate emotions.

… a man bursts into tears over his father dying of cancer and all the sudden everyone wants to tell him his reaction is too intense … someone in his life try to get him to ‘open up’ and then we he does he’s met with nothing but hostility, disappointment, and eventually rejection

it’s a meme (not in a “haha” joke way: in the actual meaning of the world; a thing that is repeated often) these days that there are horrible men who tell women (re sexism) “you must have misunderstood”… and the point of that is that men don’t have the life experience as a minority to be able to understand sexism, transphobia, etc (people treat them differently, and even if they see it they often can’t identify it because they’re not accustomed to listening for it 24/7)

that same situation exists for men too… men are certainly not a minority, but nobody is allowed to say that someone’s experience is invalid… there’s a lot of people dismissing these experiences in this thread, and if it were reversed: a woman complaining about a man making a sexist comment, a gay man (of which i’m one) complaining about homophobia, there wouldn’t be any pushback at all because we’ve come to agree that this shit happens

we know that toxic masculinity exists, we know that societal expectations of men are sky high (the suicide rate for men in particular is HUGE)… we’re clearly doing something wrong, as a society, dealing with male mental health… when people come out and tell us their experiences, it absolutely is sexist to write off those experiences as invalid: “i don’t think that kind of thing happens because i haven’t seen it”, is absolutely (anything)-ist language

is it on the same level as problem as sexism or racism? probably not… but denying the problem helps nobody… denying the problem, in this case, makes the problem so much worse and pushes people to lash out and become sexist, racist, homophobic, etc (which is also not to remove blame from them - all those things are wrong and a personal choice and should have personal repercussions)

The genders are massivenly different in a lot of ways

and even if you think that the psychology of genders isn’t different, society treats genders differently and this either from the therapist who reacts differently to different genders, or from the patient who expects difference the point is the same: the construct of gender forces artificial difference, even if it’s not based in real “our brains are the same” science (which they aren’t - same as our biology isn’t quite the same)

equity is different to equality, and equity is actually what is needed

actually for big youtubers, ad revenue from google isn’t all that huge afaik. i’m going only on the LMG breakdown they did, but they only get 26% of their revenue from adsense… that’s no tiny share of course, but i wouldn’t call it completely catastrophic to loose

existing copyright law covers exactly this. if you were to do the same, it would also not be fair use or transformative

the government should always identify itself to the people

the people should, by default, not be identified by the government

the power imbalance is important: the government is a large and powerful entity which is meant to serve the people without prejudice. people are individually small, and only gain their power from being a large group. the government is given power by the people in order for it to perform tasks beneficial to all, and must be accountable to the people

you can buy a house for cash every 3 years in the UK from that much money

yeah every 3 years is too much!

… well, tax so

every 5 years then!

… oh right rent he’d pay in the interim

fine every 7 years!

… ahhhh food costs money too!

okay okay every 8 years!

… i guess people do tend to pay bills

every 9 years!

… it’s not reasonable to be a shut in for those 6 years and being social costs money

every 10 years!

a helicopter crash in a populated area has a high likelihood of collateral damage

yeah for sure… i get it with apple one because i actively use music, drive, and tv+… certainly wouldn’t subscribe to it on its own, because you’re absolutely right: it’s too much of a hassle

there are many ways to fulfil this “obligation”… i’d argue that he’s increasing alphabet stock price in the short term but long term what the fuck is going to happen when the sources all go out of business?

… oh right they’re going to become a news monopoly… cool cool cool

regardless, i think there’s an argument to be made with all this “we are evil because it’s our legal duty to shareholders” that evil is a bad long-term choice. i think boeing is the prime example: if they weren’t “too big to fail” they’d be fucked because of their short term thinking

it’s a little annoying but i find searching for the article title generally produces the right result in the news app

after using it for a bit, i’d say in most cases i agree: bit of a nothing burger in a lot of cases (to the point where a few times i’ve thought it was bugged and reverted to the old UI style… it wasn’t), but it’s pretty great when it comes to apps where the UI is secondary (content etc)… the diffraction in the UI rather than a blur makes the whole UI able to be ignored much easier, and IMO it’s still about as legible in most real scenarios

i was thinking i’d hate it, and i can still see there are some readability issues to work out… but actually im finding i love it: it really kinda sinks into the background and lets the main content on the screen shine… the “bending” of the content in the panels rather than a blur is a much more effective middle-ground to making the foreground UI disappear until you need it

is this the way of the future? probably not… it’ll be way harder for anyone to implement than a blur, and that’s without the animations etc that make things way more complex…

but i do think it’s interesting to try new things with how you separate foreground and background in UI: we’ve been just chucking a quick blur and semi transparent colour block on buttons etc for a while, and i think this approach has a lot of up-sides

that’s absolutely true too! there are multiple parties who share the responsibility… as always, the world is complex and rarely are things black and white

but also, spending energy on prevention (the publicity) and then when the thing doesn’t occur saying “i guess we were wrong” is the wrong take i think

same thing with Y2K and plenty of engineering things: people were saying “it was no big deal! yall were saying planes were going to fall out of the sky! we wasted so much time and money!”… yeah; it was a huge and expensive effort that’s why the bad things didn’t happen

which part? it’s still transmitting right? and they got useful and interesting data from it only a few years ago

let’s not forget the agency that launched the probe that passed the edge of the solar system and is still functional and doing valuable things…… in the 70s